There are so many people that you know you want there, but then, you might find yourself really unsure about other guests. We can become worried about guests’ feelings and start evaluating the relationships.
Here are a few tips to help alleviate the stress of creating and narrowing down your wedding list.
1. Ask yourself, “Do we really ‘know’ each other??”
How long have you actually known them? How well do you know them? We all have made “fast friends” but that doesn’t mean that they are to be invited to your wedding.
If you cannot remember the last time you even saw them, perhaps they shouldn’t receive an invite. Evaluate your relationships. If you haven’t seen them in the last year or two, think twice. Of course, some family or longtime friends may bend this rule, but go with your gut.
2. Be gentle but crystal clear with your parents.
When you’re paying for the wedding yourself and trying to stay on budget, you will have to provide your parents with guidelines. Giving them a certain number of invitations can help because their guest list isn’t always yours. Be firm but respectful. You can always add other guests later if things change.
3. Ditch obligation.
Refuse to feel obligated to invite everybody for your wedding celebrations. Just because someone invited you to their wedding doesn’t mean you have to do the same. Your wedding invitations come down to the connection you have with the person and whether or not you want them to share in these moments with you.
Let go of any guilt or obligation. Make joy and celebration with family and friends your focus. Have people there that you can’t imagine starting your new life without. With that in mind, your list will almost write itself. Happy planning!
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